ohhhhhh my FUCKING GOD dude
this is possibly the most misguided, backhanded, self-congratulatory, passive-aggressive “apology” ive ever seen in my goddamn life
let me lay it down for you
1) how DARE you use alex’s full name in a post like this? even if you changed it thats not only inviting harrassment from your ugly horrible defense squad but its also passive aggressive as all hell. failure
2) i dont have to have had gently fingerfucked you while you whispered your life story in my ear for me to be able to see that youre a predatory sack of shit. i dont need to “know” you. i only need the multiple accounts of your behavior from many people whom i know and trust to glean that fact. or i could just, you know, take a peek at your blog and immediately become acquainted with the fact that you are an unapologetic whiny little asshole
in this situation i dont have to know who you are. i dont need to know who a rapist is in order to detest them. i dont have to know who you are to call you out and make you take responsibility for yourself and ensure you never hurt any of my friends again. i dont even have to “think” i know you. i was NEVER claiming to know you and personally, honestly, i dont ever WANT to know you. i dont have to know you to know that you are fucking gross at the very least, and dangerous at the very most.
at this point i am leaning towards the “dangerous” because
3) THERE IS NO FUCKING GOD DAMN MINIMUM AGE FOR BEING A PREDATOR. I DONT KNOW HOW MANY TIMES I HAVE TO TELL THIS TO YOU, IN HOWEVER MANY HUNDRED POINT FONTS AND IN HOWEVER MANY LANGUAGES FOR YOU TO UNDERSTAND THIS. YOUR AGE DOES NOT EXEMPT YOU FROM YOUR PREDATORY BEHAVIOR. EVER.
let’s take a fucking peek at what happens when a young boy is immediately absolved of his actions because hes “young” and he “doesnt know better.” that young boy grows up with that scapegoat on his back. that young boy grows up to be a bully, an abuser, a RAPIST. your not taking responsibility for your actions as a fourteen year old is your not taking responsibility for your actions EVER.
and trust me, you are NOT taking responsibility for your actions by saying you “never meant to hurt anybody,” or you “never meant for this to happen.” intent doesnt matter. what you DID, and the repercussions that follow it, matter. apologizing for the fact that people were hurt/offended is not taking responsibility for your actions. apologizing because you “want to be left alone” is not taking responsibility for your actions. it is weaseling your way OUT of responsibility by placing the blame of the effects of your actions on the people who experienced them.
if you REALLY wanted to apologize, you would not essentially be saying “im sorry for what you THINK i did and im sorry if YOU got offended because i didnt MEAN anything by it,” you would have said up front that you ACKNOWLEDGE that what you did was wrong, and that it hurt people, and that you will never do it again. it is not the victims’ fault that they were affected the way they were. it is YOUR fault because you instigated it, you instigated those negative feelings and you need to own up to it instead of making yourself out to be the victim in this situation because you MOST DECIDEDLY ARE NOT. there were no “rumors” or “lies” in this situation (and insinuating such is once again passing the blame off of yourself and onto other people). i was putting information on the table based off of what i had seen and heard from my friends who had firsthand experience with you. i was not lying to make you look bad. i was issuing a warning, and so far, that warning has reason to continue to stand.
i dont care if youre 14. i wouldnt care if you were fucking forty. YOU NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELF. you can cry all you want but it doesnt make a difference in the fact that you hurt these people first and you arent being upfront or scrupulous about it. you are being underhanded and sincerely unapologetic for everything you did, and your attitude towards this entire situation frankly disgusts me.
ps watch this video on how to apologize after being called out. you could probably learn a lot if you managed to unplug your ears for half a fucking minute